One thing you should understand and come to terms with though, is that it is NATURAL for men to be very visually oriented. Now, I’m going out on a limb here, but I have two brothers, a slammin’ dad, and great male friends. I know men are not shallow as they’re promoted as being. A man can love a butt ugly woman and not even notice that she’s ugly. If he’s in love, he’ll find what’s beautiful about her and hone in on those particular things and not just convince himself, but HONESTLY BELIEVE that she is the hottest woman in the world to him.

Since you’ve read me awhile, you probably know my situation with my husband. Even with no sex drive to speak of, the man still looks at me with those mooney eyes.

This is obviously some force in the male psyche that is somewhat connected to sexuality, but surpasses it.

Now in that context, you being a feeling male who has enough T and enough compassion to, like most men, be very well able to bond with an imperfect woman…are having an issue with a deflated fupa?

I don’t think your issue is really with the belly, especially since she’s lost weight. I think it’s with her personality.

Maybe her not letting you take the lead with the timing of the sex is bothering you, and your subconscious is just coming up with reasons to create a safe distance in case she breaks your heart.

You’ve done enough women to know that no woman is perfect. The vast majority of women just look good enough, and even hot women have some kind of defect that *could* be a dealbreaker if she was mean or less feminine. A mean skinny woman, for instance, looks to observers like a tranny. A mean fat woman looks like a linebacker.

Men may notice defects very easily, but they rarely become a real issue unless something else is going on.

Was a follower of some of your posts in the crass Roissy-sphere. I have a problem: Just got divorced and after doing the Dogg in JerkDogg enough, I’m dating seriously. I found a great chick but she:
1. lied about her age
2. she’s a former fatty who’s been putting up last minute resistance

She looks pretty good in clothes. But I notice when doing our heavy first date makeout in her car that she’s got some extra folds of skin-related fat stuff under whatever it was that she was wearing and it was giving her body image issues. It’s kind of gross. My ex was fat and I don’t want to go through it again. I think she did the weight loss surgery thing.

But I really like her though… and she looks good in clothes – about a 9. I’m a really handsome guy who can get 9′s so it’s really hard for me to handle what she probably looks like naked because try as i might, I got options. But i like her and I want to bone her without thinking about it. So is there like some shaping lingerie she could wear that would hide most of it? I like chicks in lingerie… so it could be a plus in a way.

Any ideas?

He earned my pity that day, and it appears he doesn\’t want to let go of the prize. Since he\’s told me to go shoot myself, a rather extreme response to simply being told that he, to a gold digging hoe, is a step down from a \”rock star\” (actually a funk star, but I didn\’t want to nitpick), I told him to consider me dead to him.

I made a post in the IronWynch blog with photos of me with my brother from another mother, some friends, and an ex boyfriend who I\’m not committed to anymore, but I could still see occasionally if I wanted to. Maybe on a \”blue moon\”. The post was for other\’s sake, not his.

The idea was to show that some of us live our lives on the face. Some of my real life friends read my blog and visit my sites, including both my ex husbands, and some of my ex boyfriends. I couldn\’t get away with lying about my life if I wanted to.

I think what sets Roissy off is cognitive dissonance. He claims up and down that we\’re worthless because we\’re not his cup of tea, and lauds the superiority of hot chicks, while at the same time it is clear that he doesn\’t truly value these women more. He shags them based on their looks, but then disqualifies them based on some aspect of their personality or past conduct.

So he\’s saying, through his own conduct, lecherous as it is, that personality is more important. He insults women who don\’t meet his aesthetic standards, and yet he does much worse to women who do. That doesn\’t say I\’m insane. It says he has conflicting beliefs.

…and every time someone calls attention to that, he receives it as something like a fatal blow to his ego. So he retaliates with a wish for the person who trigger it\’s death.

So much hate for people who only wish him well.

…but I\’m learning that\’s why Nietzsche said that he wishes people he loves more suffering instead of more comfort.

So I hope with all my heart that Roissy has a very long life free of suffering. Otherwise, the next person who attempts to help him grow might get more than told that they should shoot themselves.

I\’ve seen his type in mentality too close for comfort.

So no breads/grains/potatoes…nothing you couldn’t eat raw if you had to is the rule of thumb.

Keep up the dancing.. it looks fun!