The Kiss of Life (and Death)

It doesn’t matter if you smoke five packs of cheap cigs a day, and just had a whole head of fresh garlic.  If a guy is really into you, he wants to inhale your face.

Guys who don’t kiss you, or don’t kiss you like it’s their last kiss on the first kiss, are holding something back.  Sometimes there’s nothing there to hold back.  They just don’t have the feelings in them.

The Foreplay

One of the first things a guy who has those primal monkey panic/i-could-love-this-woman/oh-god-i-think-i’m-falling feelings for you wants to do when he actually has the opportunity to touch you, is get your body as close to his as possible, and keep it there.  Sometimes this crazy desire to press your bodies together can even prevent sex from happening.  Their bonding hormones are reacting to your presence and the smell of your bonding hormones.

Sometimes a guy with the potential to love you, or one who is actually aware that they already love you will get “stuck” like someone on PCP.  They think they’re moving, but they’re not moving, or they’re spending alot of time going back and forth between clutching you close to them, and wallowing in your breasts.  Between the breasts or at the neck are areas where many guys get stuck because they’re hot spots so your smell is coming off your chest and your hair and neck.  Also, these are physically handy places for their heads to be while their instincts are commanding them to try to absorb you like a scary tentacled monster.  They’re also convenient for the next behavior…

They just wanna stare at you.  A man who can love you wants to memorize every pore on your skin, every freckle, the angle of your nose, the ridges of your irises…everything about you.  He wants a good mental image to take with him when he goes.  Also, if a man truly thinks that you are beautiful, the reward centers of his brain are sending nice little happy hormones into his brain and body.

So really, even before the kiss, if he’s not looking at you alot, something is missing.

The Shagging

For sure, if a guy is shagging you as if he wishes he could do it from across the room, it’s justification to stop in the middle and tell him to finish off manually.  Then get him out of there.  If you can’t then not sleeping next to him ought to give him the message.

Whatever pretending he might have been doing up to that point, during the sex is when a person’s demons come out on their face and in their hands.  If he doesn’t really want to be touching you, he’s not going to remember to put his arms around you.  He’s not going to stop from time to time during the doggy style to try to absorb you and just feel you for a moment.

The Clitoris

A guy who knows where the clitoris is, and loves you, will make sure that you are taken care of unless you beg him not to.  He wants to make you feel what he’s feeling, and wants you there with him, not just servicing him.

It’s not rocket science.  Rub and pinch gently until you’re told it’s enough.  Even Skull could manage this with ease, so anyone supposedly more intelligent has no excuse at all.

Even in the event of one of those aggressive quickies, guys who are really into you will likely go from touching your face, to your breasts, to the clitty.  It’s just automatically a part of their expression once they figure out the mechanics.

Any more questions?

Well, if you do have more questions, alot of good information can be found on the website How to Tell if a Guy is a Jerk.  Some very good stuff there.