http://relationships.blog-city.com/someone_misusing_you_sexually_is_very_not_okay.htm
It’s about how sexual expoitation, one form of which is deceiving someone for the purpose of getting sex and/or associated benefits from them, is a violation that feels emotionally close to rape for both the exploiter and the exploited.
Sexually exploitive people, like rapists, decide that for some irrational reason, their targets deserve to, or even want to be exploited. They justify their actions by telling themselves that their victims “consented” to sex (albeit under false pretenses).
What they fail to realize is that consent requires full disclosure. Someone can’t consent to something if they aren’t reasonably aware of what they’re consenting to.
Granted, everyone who dates knows that there are risks, just as every soldier who volunteers understands that they may go into combat, and not come back alive. That doesn’t mean that someone who shoots this soldier while robbing a convenience store, has the same honor that an enemy warrior does.
When recovering from sexual exploitation, one should be careful to deal with the feelings of violation…of having one’s time, energy, and affection stolen from them. The person who did it is justifiably viewed in the mind’s eye as a thief, and deserves no mercy.
…yet every day many men and women sacrifice their hearts to people just like this because, as many victims of sexual abuse, they don’t realize that they don’t deserve it. It is a tragedy.
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